Etiquette - Different Countries, Different Ways

Etiquette

Different Countries, Different Ways - Titles and Forms of Address

Germans are regarded as being punctual, disciplined and last but not least, a little formal. Now those aren’t necessarily character faults, but they don’t always correspond to the German reality. Especially that thing about formality.

"Du" versus "Sie"

In German there are two forms of you: “Du” and “Sie.” “Du” is less formal, “Sie” is more so. Young people generally use the “du” form when talking to people their own age. Oftentimes it’s even used when they’ve just met someone. If you’re not quite sure which “you” to use, err on the side of caution. Observe the behavior of the person you’re talking with and do what he or she does. You almost always should use the “Sie” form and someone’s last name with people you don’t know. Middle-aged or older people generally consider making a quick switch to “du” rude or even pushy. So consistently use “Sie” with your conversation partner until the right moment presents itself—often over a glass of wine—and then make the transition to “du.”

Doctors and Professors

Academic titles should always be mentioned, but in scientific institutions--where almost everyone carries a title of some sort—they’re generally dispensed with. Kissing and bowing are not German customs, offering one’s hand is. And at official functions or at first meeting, the handshake is all-important. A firm handshake communicates self-confidence and respect. But don’t overdo it. Remember, that other hand you’re breaking with your iron grip might just want to drink a glass of wine with you someday.

You’ve gotta put yourself out there! - Social Interaction

The Germans act a little differently in personal relationships than they do on the road and you ought to be more frightened of denting a German’s car than by making a social faux-pas. Germans tend to come across as rather reserved and they warm up more slowly than people in some other countries. But don’t interpret that reserve as rejection. Make that first, important step and you’ll almost be certain to get a positive response. Timing is all important. When invited out by a German, punctuality is appreciated, as well as a small gift—emphasis on small. A bottle of wine is a good choice, maybe some flowers. It’s the gesture that counts and not the cost. But be careful when it comes to flowers. Red roses can be understood as a declaration of love. So when it comes to these, be careful--or if you want, throw caution to the wind!

It can become downright Chilly – the right Clothes

“Clothes make the man”. There’s hardly a country where this old piece of wisdom doesn’t hold true. In Germany one doesn’t have to fear of wearing the wrong clothes.

For official events and occasions or in the professional field – just as in most other countries – dressing too leisurely is frowned down upon. You can never go wrong with a shirt and tie for an evening at a classical concert, theatre or at a lecture. Women usually cut a good figure on such occasions in an evening dress or a pant-suit.

It there’s one person in Germany who dictates that certain kinds of clothes must be worn – it’s the weather god. It can become downright cold and damp in autumn and in winter. Wearing warm clothes may spare one from the occasional cold. Otherwise you can just about wear whatever you like.

Source: Campus Germany