Self Help

Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

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• Telling all.
• Talking at an intimate level on the first meeting.
• Falling in love with a new acquaintance.
• Falling in love with anyone who reaches out.
• Being overwhelmed by a person - preoccupied.
• Acting on first sexual impulse.
• Going against personal values or rights to please others.
• Not noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries.
• Not noticing when someone invades your boundaries.
• Accepting food, gifts, touch, sex that you don't want.
• Touching a person without asking.
• Taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting.
• Giving as much as you can give for the sake of giving.
• Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you.
• Letting others direct your life.
• Letting others describe your reality.
• Letting others define you.
• Believing others can anticipate your needs.
• Expecting others to fill your needs automatically.
• Falling apart so someone will take care of you.
• Self abuse.
• Sexual and physical abuse.
• Food abuse.