Coping with Music Performance Anxiety
Music performance anxiety is caused both by the ways we think and feel. This handout
will give you new ways to try to optimize your level of anxiety.
One way to feel less anxious is to discover and change thinking patterns that put too
much pressure on you. Look at the list of cognitive distortions below and pick one or
two that you use often, then brainstorm realistic alternative thoughts that you could
use instead.
Definition of Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive distortions are logical, but they are not rational. They can create
real difficulty with your thinking. See if you are doing any of the ten common
distortions that people use. Rate yourself from one to ten with one being low and
ten being high. Ask yourself if you can stop using the distortions and think in
a different way.
- ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING: You see things in black-and-white categories. If your
performance falls short of perfect, you see your self as a total failure.
- OVERGENERALIZATION: You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern
of defeat.
- MENTAL FILTER: You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively
so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink
that discolors the entire beaker of water.
- DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE: You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't
count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative
belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
- JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS: You make a negative interpretation even though there
are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.MIND READING:
You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and
you don't bother to check this out THE FORTUNETELLER ERROR: you can anticipate that
things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction
is an already-established fact.
- MAGNIFICATION (CATASTROPHIZING) OR MINIMIZATION: You exaggerate the important
things (such as your goof-up or someone else's achievement), or you inappropriately
shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or other
fellow's imperfections). This is also called the binocular trick."
- EMOTIONAL REASONING: You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect
the way things really are: "I feel it, therefore it must be true."
- SHOULD STATEMENTS: You try to motivate yourself with should and shouldn't,
as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to
do anything. "Musts" and "oughts" are
also offenders. The emotional consequences are guilt. When you direct should
statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.
- LABELING AND MISLABELING: This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead
of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself. "I'm a loser." When
someone else's behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to
him" "He's a Goddamn louse." Mislabeling involves describing an event with
language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded.
- PERSONALIZATION: You see your self as the cause of some negative external event,
which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.
Sixteen Prescriptions for Overcoming Performance Anxiety
(Adapted from PERFORMANCE ANXIETY by M. Robin)
- De-stress yourself, don’t distress yourself.
- Rehearse a skill, not a symptom.
- Don’t confuse anxiety with effort.
- Don’t self-medicate.
- Concretize don’t awfulize.
- De-sacredize, don’t idolize.
- Tolerate, don’t musturbate.
- Use “why not?” not “why me?”
- Act “as if”
- Be a participator, not a self-spectator.
- Be process-oriented, not product-oriented.
- Stay in the moment.
- Rate your behavior not your soul.
- Accept yourself, warts and all.
- If you must compare, compare downward as well as upward.
- Give yourself permission to be.
Four Steps for Managing Performance Anxiety
Step 1: Self-Assessment: Getting to Know Yourself Better, as a person & musician.
- Identify problematic thinking.
- What are your personal motives for performing?
- What are your capabilities and limitations as a performer?
- Ask yourself: “What am I really afraid of?” Worst-case scenario—you
run off the stage and everyone laughs hysterically. That’s unlikely,
and might give you perspective into the realities of what it is you are really
afraid of.
- Try not to confuse self-assessment with self-criticism!
Step 2: Gradual Exposure and Preparation
- Look for opportunities for exposure to mild to moderate levels of stress that
challenge but do not overwhelm your coping skills, example: visualization
of the performance.
- Other Examples: practice performances, dress rehearsals, taping yourself and
playing back.
- Be thoroughly prepared. Nothing replaces adequate time spent in rehearsal and
practice.
- Consider how the use of relaxation techniques can help to “harmonize” the
body. Meditation, yoga, and/or muscle relaxation can help the body and mind
feel uplifted and balanced so you feel excited and prepared, but not overwhelmed.
Using these techniques can help you avoid self-medicating with drugs and alcohol.
Step 3: During the Performance
- Rather than blocking out the audience, or seeing them in their underwear, try
seeing them as allies who are generally supportive and want you to do well.
- Remember, most performers have to contend with anxiety—it comes with
the territory. You’re in good company!
- Feelings of anxiety are natural, and can be used to your advantage.
- Maintain your normal routine when preparing a performance.
- Act calmly, even if you feel nervous. The more you dwell on anxiety, the more
you are likely to remain preoccupied with it.
- Try to overlook minor errors when you perform. Overall impressions are more
important to the audience than note-perfect performances.
- Consider performing as an opportunity by becoming immersed in the musical experience.
For example:
- Get out of yourself and into the audience. Try switching off the left brain’s
critical words and switching on the right brain’s passive observation.
This may help you escape self-criticism and stay in the moment.
- Enjoy what you’ve accomplished. Others are more likely to enjoy it this
way, too.
Step 4: After the Performance
- Temper such external feedback with internal beliefs and expectations you have
already established.
- Asking others afterwards, “how did I do” without asking yourself
first might be depriving yourself of a significant source of valid information
about your performance: YOU.
Performance Anxiety Resources
Books Available in UWEC Library
Notes from the Green Room: Coping with Stress and Anxiety in Musical
Performance by P. G. Salmon & R. G. Meyer
Performance Anxiety: Overcoming Your Fear in the Workplace, Social
Situations, Interpersonal Communications, and the Performing Arts by Robin
W. Mitchell
Controlling Stagefright: Presenting Yourself to Audiences from One
to One Thousand by Peter Desberg
Audition Process: Anxiety Management and Coping Strategies by S.
E. Dunkel
Stagefright: Its Causes and Cures, with Special Reference to Violin
Playing by Kato Havas
Websites
Enjoy Words and Music—Overcome fear of speaking or performance anxiety.
http://enjoywordsandmusic.com
Coping with Performance Anxiety
http://www.engr.unl.edu/eeshop/anxiety.html
Videotape
But I Played It Perfectly in the Practice Room!
Campus Resource
Counseling Services: Old Library Rm. 2122, Phone 836-5521
- Variety of self-help materials related to anxiety and stress.
- Individual counseling by appointment.
If you would like to talk with a counselor about your music performance anxiety, please
call to make an appointment at the UWEC Counseling Service 836-5521
Prepared by Robin Abraham, M.A. and Katherine Schneider, Ph.D. May 2001