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From "The Six Secrets to a Lasting Relationship." 

By Mark Goulston

  1. Time doesn't heal; truth heals.
  2. Ecstasy cannot last but it can carve a channel for something lasting.
  3. It is much easier to be alone before you’ve been in love than after.
  4. Marriage is our last best chance to grow up.
  5. Sex is a conversation carried out by other means.
  6. What you don’t talk through grows into a wall you cannot break through.
  7. One of the greatest turn-ons is removing a turn-off.
  8. There is no greater or keener pleasure than that of bodily love.
  9. Cheat on a marriage by having an affair with your spouse.
  10. Maturity is doing the right thing even if you feel like doing the wrong thing.
  11. Parents only die to more effectively meddle in their children’s affairs.
  12. Earn your own respect and you will earn your partner’s too.
  13. Experience is a hard teacher, because she gives the tests first and the lessons afterwards.
  14. Take action when you fall out of like, and you won’t fall out of love.
  15. The firmer you resolve to enjoy, the less you need to resolve.
  16. The rebel can never find peace.
  17. Think of what matters to them ahead of time, and you will matter to them all the time.
  18. Without emotional trust you can’t have emotional intimacy.
  19. Trust too much and you end up hurt; trust too little and you end up alone.
  20. Trust is in the eye of the beholder and in the behavior of the beheld.
  21. Trust but verify.
  22. After you’ve been hurt, the wrong lesson is don’t trust again - the right lesson is to trust wisely.
  23. When you have earned forgiveness and your partner still won’t forgive you, you are not unforgivable - they are unforgiving.
  24. Men and women are not from different planets. They are both from the planet earth.
  25. You can’t put yourself in someone else’s shoes and step on their toes at the same time.
  26. A successful marriage/relationship is an edifice that must be rebuilt everyday.
  27. The truth is that everything you say and do, and everything you don’t say and do, counts for something.

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